You will feel great and can start asking people how they are feeling for a change!
It is not all about you, and it never will be.
The day you figure that out is the day that you will start to see new people come into your life, that is the day that you can begin to build a new life on top of the pit of depression where you are now.
This is one of the worst ways how your depression affects others, even those who once loved you, might not be able to handle your constant sorrow.
6. Depression will Kill Your Career When Your Depression Becomes Your Number One Love
Health is your priority.
You have to stay healthy, and clearly, depression is not healthy, so you have to address your depression.
So what do you do when you are depressed, and you still happen to have a job?
If you keep stewing in your depression to the point that you cannot think of anything besides your depression, then you are going to betray your job because you cannot focus on your career.
Many people with depression turn to alcohol or drugs to alleviate the mental pain.
But you know the outcome of substance abuse, and if you lose your job, you will see how wrong you were.
When you experience depression on a frequent basis, you might need medications or hospitalization, but whatever it is, do not lose your job.
You need that job for more than the paycheck; you need to maintain dignity and self-respect, which you will lose if you end up without your career.
To keep your job, stop talking about your depression, stick it in a hidden compartment of your mind, lock the door, throw away the key and focus on something else like your health, family, friends, and your career.
7. You will Enter Catatonic Depression if You Do Not Get Up and Start moving.
You want to sit around like a zombie and not only lose your family and career, but now you cannot even make an egg?
Stand up and move, walk, swim, do something productive.
Stop falling into the quicksand of your own depression stories; no one else wants to see the movie, and they certainly will not pay for it with money or time, and neither should you.
8. So Now You Would Rather Die than Live in Depression?
Anyone who has significant depression can understand how much relief you might have if you did not have to face the images and words that your mind feeds you non stop, that narrative that keeps you in your depression.
There comes the point when you might not be able to handle living in total solitude, no family, no job, few to speak to, even the doormen will stop listening to that story of woe is me.
So what are you going to do?
You have no one left to share your story with, and you might even be tired of telling the same story to your shrink of the last 10, 20, or 30 years.
9. You are Not Going to Get an Oscar for Most Dramatic Performance.
Do you think that the people who surround you want to watch the Oscars more than once a year?
You have to pretend that you are not depressed; otherwise, you will be setting yourself up to receive the most dramatic performance award, the only problem being that no one that knows you want to see your epic film.
They are mainly interested in their own stories and not the ones that you will tell as rationales as to why you feel the way you do and why you can no longer function as they do.
10. Are You Guilty?
Did you murder someone?
What is your crime?
You know that even in prisons, real criminals have visitors.
You have put yourself in your prison, and you do not want to give yourself some slack?
Perhaps you did not live up to the high standards that you set for yourself and maybe others as well, so you are just going to torture yourself and anyone around you?
How about if you take the guilt and drown the guilt and do not drown yourself.
Guilt is a guide to better behavior, not a guillotine by which to kill yourself.
I remember the days when I was a regular user of Zoloft, Effexor, Prozac, Risperdal, and Neurontin, among many others.
Are you waking up in pools of water?
Are you sweating a lot at night?
Can you find your keys but you don’t know where you parked your car?
Have you lost any feeling in any of your body parts or extremities
Do you wonder; who is Duane Reade (a New York City joke!)?
By the time your mirror starts talking to you, questioning where you are going whenever you walk by, it is time to accept that you have treatment-resistant depression, and you must get off of your medications.
Talk it over with your doctor.
Seeing your reflection in the mirror speaking to you whenever you walk by and look is not a good sign.
12. For Everything, You are Sure About, Ask If It Is Accurate
You say that you are a monster – is that accurate?
Are you the worst person who ever lived – is that true?
You say that you are the fattest and ugliest person on the planet – is that right?
Is it true that you do not deserve to live a good life or even live at all?
Start to challenge yourself every time you assume that you know the truth.
You do not.
I am sure that you are not as accurate as you think you are.
You know that out of 7 billion people on the planet, there is a good chance that you are at least not as bad as some others out there.
Stop lying to yourself and others, get accurate!
13. You Think That Depression Will Attract People Towards You, to Help You, to Comfort You?
I told you that you are not thinking carefully.
Is that what you want to do with your time?
You want to sit and listen to someone who has nothing positive to say about anything?
Do you want to mourn before someone dead is in front of you?
Would you rather talk about the troubled past than go to the beach or think about an exciting future?
You think or are afraid that you will be alone?
Well, you are right.
You will sit alone in your room and languish.
Maybe you will spend some time on the internet, perhaps you will watch tv, or take yourself to a game, but you will surely be alone.
True, there are millions of people out there who are living in depression, but why would you want to be like them?
Yes, I understand that you cannot control the depression, that is why I gave you these 13 ways that depression will Destroy Your Life and Anyone Else in Your Path and how to save yourself and them from the carnage.
How Your Depression Affects Others – Final Thoughts
I wish someone sat me down over a decade ago and chewed me out enough that I could start thinking straight.
I know how difficult it is to focus when you are on antidepressants that affect your brain.
If you know someone, you or someone else that needs to hear how you can save yourself or them, then share it, but do not share it with someone that you think cannot handle it.
Depression will ruin everything in your life or their life, it is a nightmarish pit which is hard to escape once you slip into it, there is no water there to drink, no way to get refreshed, so this is no time to be pulling punches, just be as accurate and real as possible.
I am not a medical professional, just hoping that maybe my words might pierce the shell of your depression which currently envelops you, and help you rebuild your life now and not later.
I hope that someone out there can cross the bridge from the state of living in depression to the state of a new life.
If you don’t like talking on the phone, there are forums and support groups like the Reddit boards r/depression and r/anxiety have active communities of people with depression who may be working through an illness similar to yours.
For more information on depression, the National Alliance on Mental Illness has up-to-date research on the warning signs and symptoms of depression and other mental disorders, such as;